Monday, June 29, 2020

Reading for Insight after 45 years


              Tim O’Brien’s The Things They Carried is a collection of stories about his decision to comply with the notice from his draft board, though he was no more a soldier than “a man in the moon.”  Within a few months, he and Company A were assigned to an area in southeast Vietnam. Their losses and their lives while in Vietnam, provide the characters/individuals for the stories of memory, imagination, catharsis, and some semblance of truth. 
June, 1968- Tim O’Brien’s draft notice arrived.
The little I know about the Vietnam War can be summarized somewhere between the grief-filled silence within the Henderson State student union and the deafening WHOPWHOPWHOPWHOP of helicopter blades providing background for the evening news report.
            One of HSTC’s ROTC commissioned 2nd lieutenants was listed under casualties in the morning newspaper that was being passed from table to table. He had been a handsome fellow with fraternity leadership skills and a beautiful sorority girl for his bride He died, anyway.

            Stories and letters, news reports from reporters in the trenches catapulted legions of soon to be college graduates into the long lines to join the National Guard or the US Reserves. Grades stayed high because repeated appearances on the academic probation list brought an immediate exit along with an invitation to enlist rather than be drafted.

            My ex-husband's ability to improvise and exaggerate his skill on the typewriter sealed his next four years in a Reserve Ordinance Unit. His brother enlisted and became a door-gunner on a rescue helicopter. I had briefly dated a guy who said he was a Vietnam veteran, in college with the GI Bill, having just returned from Nam and serving with the elite Green Berets, a fact I doubt. My best friend’s husband spent his years in Vietnam as a Texas A&M commissioned officer. I never asked Pat or Bill or Jim how they felt or what they experienced. Vietnam was mysterious, malevolent, and murky in politics. 

            My brother's age group was part of the draft lottery and his birth date was drawn in the last numbers, the war ending before “his number came up.” He had once told Mother he did not want to grow up and go to war and get killed. She said she’d drive him to Canada herself. 

           I watched the final caskets come home and watched the war declared "over" 1975. I've participated in Welcome Home, Vietnam Veterans activities and paid respect at the Vietnam Wall memorial but after reading O'Brien's collection, I find myself embarrassed by naivete.

        Returning veterans did not want to talk and, it's highly probable I did not want to know.

Tuesday, June 23, 2020

Magic of Simplicity vs. Packratitude

"Isn't living with simplicity suppose to be...simple?"

When a newsletter article reaches out and grabs me with its words, I take time and take note. Soliciting for The Magnolia Journal, dear Joanna spoke to me as I thought of my sewing, craft room. It begs the question. To paint, I must remove boxes and crates of saved memorabilia. What stays? What goes?
Joanna's words: "I need to be aggressive in my pursuit of simplicity. 
Left to their own devices, these seemingly small things have a way of spiraling out of control. The paring down is worth it. As painful as it sometimes feels, there's nothing quite like the feeling of a lighter load, particularly when you see in hindsight that you were never mean to carry all that stuff anyway."
Choosing simplicity gives room to breathe. It is a personal thing - We intuitively know what areas of our lives need pruning. I am not sure what is in the boxes under the counter. The cabinets are filled. Not one empty space.
These boxes contain relics, archival items saved from three purges. Sentimentality creates "pack-rat-itude."

Junior English classes require students to read portions of Emerson and Thoreau. I designed lessons that would be engaging and personal for my students, even if they read only the portions I selected for group interaction, Agree/Disagree, etc. The students identified most when asked to "go camping like Thoreau at Walden Pond." 
I struggle to pack one "overnight" bag.

Thoreau's statement resonated with them: Why I Went to the Woods - to live deliberately, and not to find that when the time came to die, I had not lived at all.  

"Simplicity may not be magic, but it is a little bit magical," says Joanna.

I'm subscribing to Magnolia Journal - I have a discount and a sticker for free stuff!

Tuesday, June 9, 2020

The Thrill is Gone - It Happens

At a birthday party at my house when in high school. a group of friends and I swooned over the songs and the album cover "A Song for Young Love" The Lettermen. Through college, I listened to this group along with The Association and others as they poured their hearts out with "Come Back Silly Girl, Come Back to Me," and "The Way You Look Tonight." Ooooo.

It happens to me all the time. I'm a hopeless romantic. A nostalgia junkie. Expectation is destroyed by reality.
My first album for The Lettermen
I age, but my memories don't.
I change my hair style, but everyone else remains as they were in the 1960's.
Funny.

In 1964, I latched onto the singing group The Lettermen. I swooned over Jim Pike, tall, dark, handsome and a fabulous ballad singer. The Lettermen albums contained all kinds of love songs and these three handsome dudes wore Letterman sweaters, Of course.

Lucky me - my family had connections to the big time in New Orleans. Their high school friend had made it big with Louisiana Land and Exploration. While there on vacation, staying with the Phillips, we had a stage side table at the Blue Room at the Roosevelt Hotel.Headlining - The Lettermen. I was done for - too shy to do much other than sway, swoon, and sigh...deeply.

I collected their albums and listened to their love songs through early 1970's.

Last night - yes, 2020, last night, I looked on YouTube (TV) for this singing group and found live concerts. I was thrilled. It was time for a time warp journey. See the Lettermen from the 60's. In Concert - live, before me yet again.

WHAT! They had changed their hair, their clothes, even sang some new songs. They reflected the 70's and 80's and I was shocked. Long hair. Blue leisure suits with ruffled shirts and tied-in-a-bow neck wear. Platform shoes.



I'm glad I did not follow a hunch in 2000 and set out on a quest to see The Lettermen in concert. I would have been undone to see them OLD. Or not at all. Gradually, the Lettermen morphed into name only and attempt at same harmony. THREE OTHER GUYS held microphones and sang.





I did see the video of Lettermen: the Reunion.
They were not on walkers (hallelujah) and they sang Cherish/Precious and Few along with Going Out of My Head/Can't Take My Eyes Off You,
Put Your Head On My Shoulder, When I Fall in Love, etc.

While the closely knit blend, the signature harmony, was there, the thrill was gone!

My heart-throb, Jim Pike , co-founder of The Lettermen, died in 2018, at the age of 82. He had Parkinson's disease.